Making It All About YOU… with Compassion Toward Others (Sedona Magazine 2-10-21)

February 10, 2021

As I have watched the days, weeks, and months unfold over the past few years, it is apparent that humanity is going through a major awakening. It is a birthing of sorts; we are being born into a Higher version of who we really are.  Yet, as labor can be, this birthing process may not be so pleasant for many of us. 

Sometimes, in order to choose the Highest Truth, we need to get slammed by the “underbelly” of life—to help us get in touch with our ability to discern what is right for us. Sometimes we need the mud flung at us, in order to ultimately develop the ability to keep ourselves clean and clear from it all. 

Here is another way to view all that’s going on:  We are all on this accelerated path of personal and spiritual growth (whether we know it or not).  And in order to progress further, we must look at all our collective “skeletons in the closet.”  We can’t move forward until we clear out all those old, negative and hidden parts of ourselves. 

So we open the closet door, and they all start flying out, scaring the bejeezus out of us, making us feel unsafe and afraid for our very survival. We want to run away, hide, and not examine them; they are too scary. However, that’s exactly what we need to do—deal with them head-on and release their deep and frightful hold on us. 

Times have been tough indeed; yet, we will get through this. We are all learning the difference between freedom and control. We are sifting through the places in our minds where we feel like victims vs. feeling in charge of our circumstances. We are learning to be more powerful than we once were. 

Spiritual transformation is upon us all, and it is important now, to take care of yourself. “Making it all about you” means exactly that. When you are with others and feel uncomfortable by what they are saying or doing, make it about you! Which buttons of yours are they pressing by their words or actions? Which subconscious parts of you need healing and transformation? 

Many people I work with have shared that “their partner is driving them crazy” these days, due to being with them constantly. Or, they are going crazy because they can’t get out of their homes and away from the people closest to them. It’s here where I say, “Make it all about you.” 

In other words, what are you feeling deep inside that is causing your experience? Remember the Highest Truth: No one outside yourself is doing it to you. That is, the people around you are mirroring your deepest beliefs to you all the time. Because you’re spending more time with loved ones than “normal,” your subconscious programming is being triggered even more deeply now than in your regular, everyday life. 

So, this is a time to dig down deep inside and see which programs are being triggered and what work needs to be done to free yourself and grow even more. We are all having an incredible growth opportunity by all that is going on in the world, probably unlike anything that’s happened to us in the past. We get to be home, do our work (if we can), and be with ourselves in a whole new way. It’s like we’re all being given the possibility of staying safe in our cocoon, away from the world, until we’re transformed and ready to fly free. 

That is what each of us is going through, like it or not. So on one hand, it is “all about you.” You need to look within each time you’re feeling upset, uneasy, or uncomfortable with whatever is going on around you. On another hand, because each one of us is going through similar discomfort, we must have compassion for others, remembering that they may be having just as much trouble as we are sorting it all out. 

We, as the human race, are moving towards a Higher consciousness of greater Light, Love, Truth, Divine Guidance, Forgiveness, Compassion, Peace and Harmony. And all that is happening now is about helping us to move ever-closer to those Higher energies and vibrational states. So, even when it looks like storm clouds are brewing, it’s all about discovering the light of heaven once the clouds part. 

So, do your best to be grateful for all that is going on in your life, because gratitude is a gateway to those Higher energies. Trusting the process is also an important attitude to adopt, and certainly work on clearing any parts of you that are not able to trust or are having trouble doing so. 

In other words, go for the positive, and be willing to look at the negative when it rears its ugly head. You don’t want to suppress the negative, in that it will “bite you in the butt” later on. You want to feel it, deal with it, and release its hold on you, by telling the truth about it and shifting your beliefs about the true nature of life. 

Do you best to find ways to enjoy yourself through these challenging times, and remind yourself that you can create a life of peace and harmony in which you experience winning. You are incredibly powerful with your thoughts, attitudes and words; so, do your best to tap into your power and use it wisely. 

Create a goal list of what you’d like to accomplish. Your mind will go to work to create all that you want for yourself.  Whatever you are wanting to change, look within to find the deep beliefs you must have that have created those situations or conditions, and work on rewiring your subconscious mind and integrating new ideas and beliefs that will lead you to a better, clearer place. 

You are in charge of your life.  Sometimes you just need a reminder of this truth. Whatever isn’t working for you can be healed and transformed now, to help you create more peace and satisfaction within yourself and your relationships. All of what you have known to date is “up for major change.” 

Even when it looks “bad” or “challenging,” it’s important to trust the Divine plan for humanity which is moving us all forward, whether we can see it or not. That’s where trust comes in. Trust is having the faith that the forces of Goodness and Light are in charge, and are helping us through these “dark times.” 

We are coming back to who we really are, as spiritual beings of Light and Love, so no matter how hard you feel life is hitting you now, it’s important to trust the path, and use this time to truly take care of and nurture yourself, while maintaining, to the best of your ability, compassion for your friends and loved ones who are also going through similar challenges.

We will all make it through this.  Prayer is a great tool to support the process as well. Your Highest needs and desires to facilitate your personal and spiritual growth will always be met. 

Your Higher Self knows where you need to be at every moment of time, so trust the perfection of life as it unfolds for you—even if you think you are making a mistake. Trust that some part of you knows exactly what is best for you. Treat yourself with as much love and compassion as possible. This will greatly help you “steer your ship” through the uncharted waters ahead.


Phyllis Light, Ph.D. is an author, expert in “Telepathic Healing,” pioneer in subtle energy protection, and creator of Rejuvenizers®—protective and healing devices designed to combat the ills of life in a high-tech world. She helps free people throughout the world—from their old subconscious programming and from the harmful effects of electromagnetic fields—while helping them become both healthier and more spiritually aware.  She can be reached at: 512-301-2999 or:

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